How to Stop Feeling Mom Guilt
Most of us have felt mom guilt before. That icky feeling that sneaks in when you’re trying to do something for yourself. Maybe you’ve felt it when you’re leaving your child with someone else while you get out of the house. Or perhaps it’s crept in when you prioritize doing something just for you instead of being with your kids. Whatever the scenario is, the feeling of mom guilt can be really overwhelming. Sometimes it can get to the point where you want to stop doing things for yourself just to keep these feelings at bay. Here are a few quick tips on how to stop feeling mom guilt.
The first thing to do is to recognize your feelings. When you begin to feel that uncomfortable sensation, stop and think about why you’re feeling that way. Are you doubting your reason for wanting to do something for yourself? Are you questioning the capability of the person you’re leaving your kids with? Once you pinpoint the reason why you’re feeling mom guilt, it can help you better understand and be more in touch with your emotions.
The next step is to not allow these feelings to get any bigger. Even if it doesn’t always feel this way, you are in control of your feelings and emotions. Sometimes your brain uses things like guilt and anxiety to try and protect you, but the reality is that it’s causing more panic and concern than is necessary. Again, by identifying the reason you’re having these feelings of mom guilt, you can put an end to letting your brain spiral out of control with unrelated or unwanted thoughts.
Then, you’re going to reframe the thoughts you’re having and put a positive spin on it. Rather than dwelling on the feelings of guilt or shame, take this as an opportunity to get excited about the thing you chose to do for yourself. You should be proud that you’re taking the time to care for yourself and your mental health! It’s a big deal! Just remember: you are allowed to do things just for you. It’s healthy and necessary to take time to be who you are on the inside, independent of your kids or anyone else.
Finally, get busy doing something else that’s affirming. Pull yourself out of the situation of overthinking and shift gears. Maybe you take that nervous energy and put it into creating something with your hands. Or if it was closer to the time that you were going to be leaving the house, start getting ready to leave. Giving your mind something else to think about will stop the spiraling thoughts and also help you get more excited about the thing you have planned to do just for you!
Mom guilt is a sneaky thing that happens and makes us feel not so great about our decision making skills. You deserve to enjoy moments just for you and you are a good mom, no matter what the other intrusive thoughts you’re having might tell you
