Ways Moms Can Ask for Support

For some people, asking for help can be an overwhelming task. Whether it’s because of the fear of being told no or simply feeling too burdened to even know what to ask for, it can be challenging for moms to try and find ways others can support them. But we know that moms cannot and should not be on the journey of motherhood alone. It’s important to ask for support when you need it in order to maintain a happy and healthy life. If you have a hard time asking for support on a regular basis, here are some ways to help break the ice: 

Start Simply

Beginning with asking for a simple favor can help you to feel more comfortable asking for help in the long run. This might be things like asking your partner to pick something up from the store on their way home or asking a friend to watch your little one while you run an errand. Relying on others to complete a small task or help you out in a small way can make big strides toward leaning on your support system more regularly. 

Voice Your Concerns

Asking for support is all about being open and honest about how you are feeling. Talk about how you are feeling emotionally and mentally in a candid way with those who love and support you. This can be difficult to do if you aren’t used to it, but the more you open up, the easier it becomes. Don’t hide behind shame or embarrassment and own the way you are feeling. People can’t help you or support you if you constantly say things are fine when they actually aren’t. 

Check in Regularly 

Building a strong support system is dependent on having a strong relationship with those people you need to lean on. Of course you can’t rely on someone from college you haven’t spoken to in years, there’s barely a foundation there. Be sure to nurture relationships with those you want to have in your inner circle. Make time to talk on the phone or video chat, set time aside just for the two of you to catch up without distractions, and make sure you show mutual interest in their life as well. The deeper your connection is with someone, the easier it will be to call on them in a time of need. 

Don’t be Afraid

If you have a strong support system, they are likely very willing to help you out when you need it. Even if you think the request you’re making is too large, if they are truly part of your support system, they will at least consider helping you. Remember, the worst that can happen is they tell you no and you are no worse off than you were before. More likely than not, they will try to help you find a solution to your problem if they can’t assist you completely. 

Relying on support systems is an important part of motherhood to ensure you feel supported and connected to others. Practice growing these bonds and voicing your concerns to others to feel more balanced and nurtured in your motherhood journey. For more information about support systems and how to grow them, check out our workbook: A Mom’s Guide to Building Connection